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Even if your child is an independent sleeper with predictable nap and bedtime schedules, settles into sleep and loves their crib (Yes that is absolutely a thing) there will be times where you may/will notice some disruptions to their sleep.  It is inevitable that there will be some bumps in the road.

I have identified 3 of the most common disruptors for you, to be aware of and to feel ready to tackle them.

 

Developmental Milestones

Developmental surges will disrupt your little ones sleep, especially in the first year.  At the 4 month mark they begin to roll onto their side or tummy and often get stuck and don’t quite know how to get back onto their backs.  They are not there yet and learning to roll the other way takes some practice.  

In the meantime, if your little one can only roll one way – onto their bellies, then it is important that you gently place them on their backs again. Once you shift them onto their backs again, just place your hand on the baby with some gentle pressure for a minute or 2 and then move away and let them sleep. Keep your intervention low key so as not to wake the baby up during the shift.

Other developmental milestones include sitting up or standing up in the crib.  With any of these milestones, the key really is to help them “practice” getting out of these positions so that they don’t get stuck in their crib.  

For example, if your little one is only rolling onto the belly, lay them on a towel or blanket and roll up the opposite end and gently lift the blanket and encourage the baby to roll the opposite way.  The more they get used to rolling the other direction, they will be able to naturally do it on their own over time.  

With sitting or standing you can coax the baby down by patting the floor or with a toy so they know how to get back down.  

The more practice little ones get with these physical milestones during the day, the more opportunity they have to master the skill and the more confidence you will have to leave them be and not rush in every time you see them standing in the crib.

Language acquisition and babbling in the crib is also a common milestone that may disrupt sleep.  

All of these skills take energy.  Babies ultimately need the sleep and want to sleep, however these milestones may disrupt sleep for a couple of weeks.  The important thing is that you do not start creating new habits in order to help the baby, such as start feeding, picking up as these will disrupt sleep more.  

My advice is to ride it out, get the practice in during the day and be patient.  This will pass.

 

Sickness  

When our kiddos are sick, and running fevers, it is very hard to watch and parents tend to intervene more at night or with naps.  I am a mom too and I totally get it.  The thing to remember and keep in mind is that your little one actually needs the rest and sleep to be able to recuperate.  However it is tough for them if they are stuffy  or coughing.

Be mindful of your intervention if the baby is up.  If you typically wait before responding to your little one, forego the wait time and go straight to baby.  Go in, wipe their nose, check temperature, give medicine if needed, cuddle and then place them back into their crib to continue their sleep.  

The key when a baby is unwell is to avoid starting and creating new habits which can undo all the hard work and effort you have put into sleep.  So don’t start feeding or taking the baby into your bed.

If you are concerned it is better to go camp out in your little one’s room for a couple of nights so that you can keep an eye on them whilst they are in the crib.  Try not to do this for more than 3 days as that’s the time it can take for a new habit to form.  It then becomes doubly hard to break the habit.

Keep your interventions low key and quiet, keep the room dim and once baby is better, get back on track with doing your routine and placing baby into their crib and leaving the room.  It may take a couple of nights to adjust, but they will.

 

Traveling

 It’s always exciting to plan vacations with the family.  Often we get carried away and schedule so many activities for one day we forget that our little ones may not be able to handle moving from one activity to another all day long.  Children often get overtired with the over scheduling and the jet lag catches up with them.

The more overtired your little one becomes, the harder they will scream, cry and protest when trying to settle into sleep.  Typically when this happens whilst on vacation we can quickly slip back into past habits, just to get sleep for everyone and try to enjoy the vacation.

My biggest tip to families who are traveling is DO NOT over schedule your days.  Plan for a couple of activities for the day to allow some down time between activities.

Pre-planning is always helpful with little ones.  I always advise parents that if they cannot do one crib nap at the hotel, then at least plan the day so that your little one is either in their stroller or in the car around their usual nap time.  This will not be the same quality sleep they would get in the crib, however it will give them the opportunity to at least get some sleep.

We have a tendency to keep our kiddos strapped in a stroller, in the car seat or a high chair at restaurants when on vacation.  Do ensure that your little one gets the chance to move around during the day.  This will help them exert some energy and this will help them actually be ready for sleep.

I encourage you to create a separate sleep space for your little one so that their sleep is not disturbed.  Take a white noise machine, some tape and black garbage bags to ensure the room is dark enough.  Be prepared and set up the environment before the first sleep.

Keep in mind that even us adults can take a day or two to adjust to sleeping in a new environment.  Give your baby some grace and allow them the space to get used to the new environment and use their sleep skills.

 

Most of all, have FUN when you are away.

 

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Making the Transition to One Nap https://sleeprestandplay.com/transition-to-one-nap/ Tue, 01 Jun 2021 12:18:55 +0000 https://sleeprestandplay.com/?p=2470 There are so many transitions your little one will face in the first 18 months, developmentally and with sleep. Dropping from two naps to one, is one of them. Every child is different and has different sleep needs. Typically this transition can occur anywhere between 12 months to 16 months. Here are some pointers to […]

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There are so many transitions your little one will face in the first 18 months, developmentally and with sleep.

Dropping from two naps to one, is one of them.

Every child is different and has different sleep needs.

Typically this transition can occur anywhere between 12 months to 16 months.

Here are some pointers to help you decide whether it is time for your little one and how to do it if/when the time arises.

What are the signs?

  • Is your little one starting to take one long nap and one short nap?
  • Are they taking a longer time to fall asleep before taking a nap or refusing a second nap?
  • Do they seem to have more stamina between naps?
  • Has this been going on for more than two weeks?

I do have to say this middle of the day nap is awesome once the transition has happened as you get a whole chunk of time to get things done, getting nothing done, put your feet up, take a legitimate nap yourself, read a book, do whatever your heart desires!  

This also means that your little one will have more stamina to stay awake for longer stretches and you don’t have to worry about getting them into their crib for two naps.

The key is not to jump to one nap prematurely.  Is your little one going through any developmental milestones which could be impacting sleep? Are they learning to walk, babbling more?  These milestones can disrupt sleep for about 2 weeks, so if you see these changes, wait before you adjust the schedule.  Let your little one ride it out with the two naps.  If things do not improve you may need to make the switch.

Once you make the decision to drop to one nap, it is important you stick with it.  Napping your little one twice one day and then once another two days will mess with their natural body clock.

So the big question – How do you adjust from two naps to one?

  • Delay the first nap of the day by 30 minutes every three days. For example, if nap number one is usually at 9.30, shift to 10 for three days, then 10.30 for three days, then 11 and so on until you get to 12 P.M.
  • Your little one will seem tired and fatigued at the usual nap time.  Give them some fruit or a snack with natural sugars to perk them up.
  • Get some fresh air and natural daylight exposure during their awake time.
  • Avoid being in the car or taking them for a stroller ride at the time of their nap as they will more than likely fall asleep.
  • If your infant is getting a little tired in the afternoon and the gap between the wake up from nap and bedtime is too long a stretch, then take them for a quick 30 minute car ride or stroller ride total the edge off before bedtime.
  • Be prepared to shift bedtime earlier to ensure you get your baby to bed before they become overtired.
  • The biggest thing is to give it time.  It can take 4 -6 weeks for the body to adjust to the shift from two naps to one.  Be patient and be consistent.

If you need further support, book a 15 minute call to discuss what’s going on and how I can help you.  https://sleeprestandplay.youcanbook.me/

Sleep Well

Seema

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Sleep and Older Children – From 5 to 8 Years Old https://sleeprestandplay.com/sleep-and-older-children/ Wed, 12 May 2021 08:00:00 +0000 https://sleeprestandplay.com/?p=2439 The post Sleep and Older Children – From 5 to 8 Years Old appeared first on Sleep Rest and Play.

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Did you know that I work with children up to 8 Years old?

I actually love working with this age group for a number of reasons. One of them is
hearing about the pride children feel when they are able to do the one thing that seems
to come so easily to their friends and peers, being able to go to sleep and stay asleep
until morning.

With the world the way it is today, I understand that our children are on screens a whole
lot more than usual. Whether it is virtual schooling or playing games online to stay in
touch with friends.

There may also be a lot more noticeable anxiety come bedtime as children have gotten
so used to seeing their parents and being with them this past year. Anxiety can also
increase when children want to go to sleep but can’t.

Here are some tips I want to share with you to help you tackle sleep more easily with
your older child.

Talk to them about the importance of sleep: Taking some time out to talk about the
benefits of sleep with your child and how it can give you more energy, helps you be in a
good mood, concentrate at school, is helpful. Also talking about how not getting sleep
can affect your day, make you have less energy, feel tired, not want to play outside, etc.
is also helpful. This will allow your child to see that getting to bed on time and sleeping
through till morning is actually helping them. Once you identify why they may be feeling
groggy or less energetic they will be able to relate that back to a lack of sleep and the
negative consequence of not getting the rest they need.

Screen Time: Monitor what your children are doing/watching online. Put limits on
Screen time. You can set a timer on their device. Keep screens outside of the bedroom.
If their desk is in their room and they are attending school online, after school move to a
different room. Turn all screens off 1hour 30 minutes before sleep. Do not charge devices in
their bedroom.

Get Moving: Getting physical activity is key in getting a good night’s sleep. Children
exert energy, get a chance to shake the sillies out, and allows them to build up sleep
pressure and actually be ready for sleep come bedtime.

Set the scene: An hour before bedtime start to dim lighting around the house, this will
help increase your child’s melatonin their natural sleep hormone.

Get them involved in their bedtime routine: Children like to feel like they have some
control. You can sit down together and make a bedtime routine chart. Let your child
decide the order. There should be just 4 or 5 steps in their routine; for example, shower,
pajamas, brush teeth, read a book, stretches, affirmations, get in bed.

Keep the routine 30/40 minutes long: If it goes any more than this it can lead to
children losing focus and track of what the end goal is which is to go to bed. It may
delay bedtime. Avoid moving around the house during the routine or once it is complete.

Use a night light: Sometimes just being in a dark room can make children this age
feel scared or nervous. Do not leave a bright lamp or overhead light on in the room as
this is more disturbing and more likely to rouse them awake at night. I suggest meeting
them halfway and using a plug-in night light. Make sure it is an orange/red tone so it is
softer and gives enough light but also does not disturb their sleep.

Use a clock: Having a visual reference makes it helpful and easier to set a boundary of
when it is okay to start the day in the morning. It helps your child know when it is
morning and it is something you can reference if they are up in the middle of the night or
at the crack of dawn. You can say “…Your clock is not green, it’s still nighttime”.

Use positive affirmations: Providing your child some tools to help them when laying in
bed or if they wake up in the night can help them feel more confident. Here are some
affirmations that can you can use: “Tonight I will be serene like a swan” “Tonight I will
breathe like the tide” Tonight I will float like a cloud” “Tonight I will be calm as a lake.”

Acknowledge your child’s feelings: If your child has big feelings like fear or anxiety
come bedtime, do name and acknowledge these feelings. This will help them feel
heard. Also, let them know of a time you felt these feelings and how you got through it
and emphasize to them that you know they can do it too with some time and practice.

Celebrate their progress: Once your child starts to follow their routine and take less
time falling asleep or has fewer wake-ups in the middle of the night, or stays in their bed
until their clock shows it is morning, give them a high five. Let them know you have
noticed, it will give them an intrinsic motivation to continue to do well.

Most of all, be patient!

Sleep Well,

Seema

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When Should I Sleep Train My Baby? https://sleeprestandplay.com/sleep-train-my-baby/ Tue, 13 Apr 2021 23:17:37 +0000 https://sleeprestandplay.com/?p=2375 The post When Should I Sleep Train My Baby? appeared first on Sleep Rest and Play.

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When should I sleep train my baby is a common question that parents often ask themselves. Some decide at the four-month mark, and some are still asking that question when their kiddo is 7 or 8 years old.

 

Let me be honest here; it will never feel like the right time. There is no perfect time to implement changes around your child’s sleep. The main reason being…it will take work, it will be tiring (but you are tired already), and you will not be using all the things you are using to survive. You will be starting from scratch.  

 

There will always be changes/developments in life which may cause some disruptions with sleep. A few examples being, going on vacation, a new sibling, moving house, teething, and sickness.

 

I will tell you this though, the longer you wait, the more sleep deprived you become and the deeper you get into survival mode, creating more “habits.”

 

The biggest question to ask yourself is, is this sustainable? Can you continue living in this fog and state of exhaustion? Can you stand one more night or months or years of bickering with your partner, having no energy, have your work performance suffer, no time for yourself, and feel anxious every time bedtime rolls around?

 

Consider these 4 points to help you make your decision:

 

      1. Are you ready for a change? Are you ready to commit? It may not be easy, but there is an end in sight. Seeing a plan through from start to finish in its entirety is essential to be able to see the positive changes your baby is making towards independent sleep.
      2. Are you and your partner on the same page? Sometimes your baby not sleeping can affect partners in different ways. Have you had a conversation about how this exhaustion is hurting you? Have you sat down and imagined how life would change if everyone were well-rested? Having your partner’s support will also enable your little one to see that both parents are on the same page. This also helps with consistency and essentially makes it easier in the long run when you want to go out on a date night and have another caregiver put them to bed. Your kids will see that no matter who does bedtime, it looks the same. It also takes the pressure of one parent dealing with the brunt of all the wake-ups and bedtime battles.
      3. Can you clear your calendar for 2 or 3 weeks to implement a plan? A plan needs commitment and most of all consistency. The more consistent you can be for your little one for the duration of the plan, the easier it will be for them to learn independent sleep and help their natural body clocks.
      4. Are you prepared for some protest from your little one? Change is hard, and even the slightest change to sleep can cause some tears. However, these will lessen with time as your baby gets that independent sleep skill underway

If you are ready to get your life back and have more energy with your child/ren, book a call with me to discuss your options.

 

Sleep Well

 

Seema

 

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Help my Baby is Falling Asleep Standing https://sleeprestandplay.com/help-my-baby-is-falling-asleep-standing/ Fri, 08 Jan 2021 07:00:00 +0000 https://sleeprestandplay.com/?p=2293 If you’re reading this, you’ve likely got a little one that’s been falling asleep in an awkward position. Or you’ve heard that it can be an issue and you’re looking to learn how to deal with it ahead of time.  So your baby has learned to stand up! Congratulations on this wonderful milestone! It’s such […]

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If you’re reading this, you’ve likely got a little one that’s been falling asleep in an awkward position. Or you’ve heard that it can be an issue and you’re looking to learn how to deal with it ahead of time. 

So your baby has learned to stand up! Congratulations on this wonderful milestone! It’s such an exciting time to be a parent, and this is such a huge step into the world of development that’s coming your way very soon. 

Having said that, a lot of babies run into a bit of an issue when they first learn to stand up; they haven’t learned to get back down yet. 

During the day, this doesn’t present much of an issue. Your little one can spend all day practicing going from a standing position to seated, all while you’re next to them helping them through it.

But once nighttime rolls around, this becomes a whole other issue. 

I know the Catch-22 this puts parents in, believe me. On the one hand, you can’t just leave your baby in a situation where they might fall down and hurt themselves, but on the other, if you keep going in and laying them down, they don’t learn how to do it themselves. What’s more, they’ll quickly learn that standing up and making a fuss is a pretty effective way to get mom or dad back into their room and paying attention to them.

So there’s a fine line that we need to walk in order to help baby figure out how to solve this little situation they find themselves in without creating a habit that could sabotage their sleep.

If your baby hasn’t started this behavior yet, let me warn you, it’s frustrating. More so than the average middle of the night wake-up, because the solution is so totally obvious. You’ll likely find yourself saying “Just lie down, already!” more than a few times before this gets resolved. I do want to reassure though,any developmental milestone and disruption to sleep should pass within a couple of weeks so hang in there!

As with all things in parenting, patience is essential here. Keep in mind that your baby may not know how to go from a standing position to a sitting one on their own yet, and they may not realize yet that sleep comes a whole lot easier when you lie down. Remind yourself of this when they wake you up for the fifth or sixth time in three hours because they’ve woken up and gotten back on their feet again, fussing because they can’t get back to sleep.

The quickest way through the first part of the equation is to develop that standing-to-sitting skill, so during the day, practice going from standing to sitting any chance you get. When baby pulls herself up to a standing position, try putting their favorite toy or stuffie on the ground nearby, gently encouraging them to go from a standing position back down to ground level in order to get their reward.  You can also pat the floor.

Once they’ve got that skill mastered, however, that second hurdle may still be an issue. They may not realize that sleep is a whole lot easier to achieve when they lie down. 

It seems like it should be instinctive, I know, but a lot of things seem that way when you’ve been doing them all your life. When you’ve only been around for nine or ten months, it might not seem so intuitive, so again, patience mama! 

We don’t want to create a situation where baby starts relying on you to do the work for her, so avoid repeatedly laying her down when she stands up in the crib. Do it a few times at first to show her what’s expected, but once that’s established, switch to a more suggestive approach that doesn’t involve contact. Pat the mattress and use a key phrase, like, “Lay your head down,” or “Come lie down, baby,” and before too long, they should start to connect the dots and realize that lying down is the best way to get to sleep.

Remember, even though it might appear that your little one is fighting sleep sometimes, that’s almost never the case. They want to sleep, but they just lack the skills necessary to get there on their own, so help them figure it out without doing the work for them and they’ll take care of the rest as soon as they develop a little confidence and ability. So practice, practice, practice!!

if you’re raising baby with a partner, talk this out with them and come up with a plan that both of you can agree on and follow through with. One parent responding with one set of expectations with another responding totally differently is going to confuse baby even further in a situation where they’ve already got a lot to figure out. Both of you will need to respond in the same way in order for your expectation to be clear, and you’ll see results a whole lot quicker if you’re working from the same playbook.

As always, be calm, be patient, and be consistent. The hard work now will pay off a thousand times over when your little one is sleeping soundly through the night and happily going down for naps during the day.

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Quarantine Survival Guide https://sleeprestandplay.com/quarantine-survival-guide/ Thu, 07 May 2020 16:47:21 +0000 https://sleeprestandplay.com/?p=2229 What can I say? These past few weeks have been… I mean, wow. Right? Just wow. If you’re in the same boat as most parents in the world, you’ve had to accommodate the fact that your kids were suddenly and unexpectedly given an extra four months of summer vacation. And to top it all off, […]

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What can I say? These past few weeks have been…

I mean, wow. Right?

Just wow.

If you’re in the same boat as most parents in the world, you’ve had to accommodate the fact that your kids were suddenly and unexpectedly given an extra four months of summer vacation. And to top it all off, they’re unable to leave the house.

Now listen, I love my kids to death. Every parent I know loves their kids more than anything in the world, but that doesn’t mean that having them at home all day, every day, for weeks and months at a time, is easy.

So I think we can all agree that these are extraordinary times, and as such, they require some extraordinary measures to keep everyone sane and halfway functional. For some of us, that probably means some big adjustments to the usual routine.

This whole situation is, obviously, beyond crazy and we’ve got to do what we’ve got to do here, I get that, but I just wanted to drop in here and give you some tips to keep your children feeling secure and rested, and to help you keep your sanity while you’re at it.

Stick to the script

Have you ever wondered why babies can engage in the same boring little pastime for hours on end? Why a game of peek-a-boo can make them squeal with delight as heartily on the hundredth time as it does on the first? It’s because, at least in part, their expectations are being met. They watch you put your hands over your face, then think to themselves, “Oh hey! I know what happens next! She’s going to move her hands away, and her face is going to be right there!” And sure enough, the hands drop, Mama gives her the familiar “Peek-a-boo!” and baby thinks to herself, “Oh, I knew it! I knew that was going to happen!”

Routines also give kids a sense of security. Knowing what’s on the schedule provides them with a road map for their day, and that knowledge makes them confident and puts their minds at ease, so even though we may need to make some serious concessions, there’s a lot to be said for keeping things predictable and consistent wherever possible.

Let’s just embrace screen time

In my case, and in the case of nearly every other parent I know, we’ve slightly upped screen time by about three thousand percent. None of us are thrilled about it.  You may feel the pressure to have your littles make sourdough bread or build some amazing projects as shown on some social media.  However for those of us in the real world, extra screen time for the kids might just be the difference between a peaceful afternoon and a mutual meltdown.

Just one caveat; screens emit a lot of blue light which can interfere with the body’s natural circadian rhythm, so go ahead and let your kids indulge in extra screen time, but turn them off two hours before bedtime. (The screens, not your kids.)

Keep ringing the dinner bell

When it comes to mealtimes, again, try to stay as consistent as possible. Few things affect our bodies’ sense of timing like when we eat, so allowing meal and snack times to fluctuate too much can upend your little one’s schedule. Sugary snacks will likely leave them with too much energy come bedtime and the occasional upset tummy, so keep an eye on how much junk food they’re getting into. 

Embrace your inner architect

With everyone being housebound, your kids are likely going to have a ton of excess energy. With no playground to frolic in and no friends to chase around, you’re going to need to get creative to help them tire themselves out. Getting outside is a good idea. Sunlight will help maintain the circadian rhythm and a bike ride or even a brisk walk can help reduce feelings of confinement and keep you and your kids from going stir crazy. Building a temporary indoor play area out of furniture and cushions can be a great project to keep your kids occupied and provide them with some stuff to climb on too.

Early to bed, early to rise…

Now, since many of us are no longer under any obligation to get up for work and school, we might get to thinking that this is a good opportunity for everybody to catch up on some sleep by turning off the morning alarms. I’m tempted to do so myself, to be honest, but sticking to the usual bedtimes and wake up times is really important. Predictability and structure are, again, sources of comfort for our kids, so even though there’s no morning bell, it’s still a good idea to keep things on schedule. Besides, things are eventually going to go back to normal, and trying to get them back onto their usual schedule is going to be a challenge. You’re better off just sticking to the tried and true.

Deep breath in, deep breath out

For older kids, some deep breathing exercises during their bedtime routine can help to settle them down at the end of the day. I’m not  suggesting they start meditation classes or anything, but deep breathing games can actually be a lot of fun! 

Don’t panic

Outside of the sleep realm, there are a couple of other tips I’d like to offer you. As you undoubtedly know, kids are perceptive little creatures, and they probably know that there’s something serious happening at the moment. They might not bring it up too much, but there’s likely something pinging around in the back of their heads that has them a little bit on edge. This can be amplified if they see that their parents are concerned and on edge as well, so try to keep the atmosphere cheery and light. I know it’s not easy given the circumstances, but stressed out kids aren’t going to improve the situation. If they have questions, of course you should be honest and forthcoming, but your attitude towards things will work wonders in keeping their minds at ease.

Focus on the good stuff

Last but not least, try not to watch the news coverage with the kids around. They’re always listening and hearing terms like, “death toll,” and “fatal disease” is going to increase their stress levels. It’s important to stay informed, but do so after they’ve gone to bed. 

I look forward to getting back to a time when we can discuss less serious things with each other again, and look back at this time as one where we all came together (even while we’re so far apart) and made the best of a really bad situation. Until then, wash your hands, stay at home, and make the best of this quarantine. Who knows, we may end up remembering this time with some affinity for the opportunity it’s given us to reconnect with our kids. 

I mean, not likely, but it’s possible.

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COVID-19: How Can I Help? https://sleeprestandplay.com/covid-19-how-can-i-help/ Sat, 28 Mar 2020 02:54:50 +0000 https://sleeprestandplay.com/?p=2213 Hi,  During the past crazy couple of weeks, I’ve been thinking a lot about this quote from Mr. Rogers: “When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, ‘Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.’” So as we all […]

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Hi, 

During the past crazy couple of weeks, I’ve been thinking a lot about this quote from Mr. Rogers:

“When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, ‘Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.’”

So as we all try to navigate these scary times together, I started thinking about how I could be a helper. 

And since my expertise is around young children and sleep, I wanted to share a few things with you in the hope that you’ll find them helpful.

First, since we’re all focussing on staying healthy right now, it’s a good time to remember that one of the very best ways to maintain a strong immune system is to get a good night’s sleep.

(There’s a lot of complicated-sounding science behind why this is, but it has to do with “T-cells” being better able to fight infected cells when stress hormones are low. And stress hormones are at their lowest when we are asleep!)

Now, if you’ve got a baby or toddler in the house who isn’t sleeping well, getting that good night’s sleep can obviously be a little trickier — for you AND your little one.

However, there are some “tricks” you can try — starting tonight — that can make a big difference!

I refer to these as “sleep hacks.” And while none of these are guaranteed to work for every child, these are the 6 “quick fixes” that I’ve found actually CAN make a difference.

Sleep Hack #1: Watch The Waking Hours

One of the BIGGEST enemies of sleep – especially for babies and toddlers – is over tiredness… and many parents are surprised to learn just how soon their children get overtired!

Here’s a quick guide to how long your child should be awake between naps during the day:

Newborns (0-12 Weeks): 45 minutes

3-5 Months: 1.5–2 hours

6–8 months: 2–3 hours

9–12 months: 3-4 hours

13 months to 2.5 years: 5–6 hours

If you make sure that your child is put down for naps BEFORE they get overtired, you’ll find that they fall asleep more easily at nap time… AND that they are more relaxed at bedtime, too!!

Sleep Hack #2: Don’t Be Afraid of the Dark

We humans (babies and toddlers included) sleep better in the dark.

Try making your child’s room as dark as possible. (I recommend using blackout blinds, taping cardboard over the windows, or whatever it takes!)

In many cases, even the glow from a nightlight or a digital alarm clock can be enough to disrupt your child’s sleep cycle!

BONUS TIP: Try to keep your child’s room as dark as possible during daytime naps, too. This can often make a BIG difference in how long your child will nap during the day!!

Sleep Hack #3: Be Predictable (And a Little Boring) 

Babies and toddlers love predictable routines. And a predictable bedtime routine (lasting no longer than 30 minutes) is a great way to let your child know when the time for sleep is coming.

BONUS TIP: After your bedtime routine is complete, be boring. Lots of children will try to “drag out” bedtime by playing games, throwing toys out of the crib, standing up, etc. Don’t participate. 

If your child has thrown their blanket or favorite stuffed toy out of the crib, calmly return the item without saying a word. Be boring, and the games shouldn’t last too long!

A typical bedtime routine might look something like this:

  • nursing or bottle (10 minutes)
  • bath (5 minutes)
  • put on pajamas (5 minutes)
  • read a story or sing some songs (10 minutes)

Make sure that this routine is the same every single time. Remember, you want bedtime to be as predictable as possible for your child!

Sleep Hack #4: Feed AFTER Naps, Not Before

For a lot of babies and toddlers, the single biggest reason they don’t sleep well has to do with a feeding-sleep association.

In other words, your child has “linked” the ideas of feeding and sleeping. They think that they need a bottle or nursing BEFORE they can fall asleep.

By feeding right after nap time – instead of before – you can help your child break this feeding-sleep association.

 Sleep Hack #5: Same Place, Same Time

Remembering that our children love predictability, it’s a good idea to have your child sleep in the same place – at the same time – every day.

This means that nap time should happen in the same place as nighttime sleep – rather than in carseats, strollers, your lap at the coffee shop, etc.

For many parents, simply changing WHERE their child naps during the day causes a big improvement in the length and quality of nighttime sleep.

Sleep Hack #6: Take Five

Before you put your child to bed (for naps or at nighttime), make sure the five-minute period before they are put to bed is very calm and relaxing.

No throwing your toddler in the air… or watching TV… or tickle fights… in the five minutes immediately before bed.

IMPORTANT NOTE: I totally encourage tickle fights and any other kinds of rowdy fun you can think of with your children. It’s fun for the whole family! Just NOT in the five minutes before bed. Right after waking up is a great time to play!)

Now as I mentioned, since every child is unique, I cannot guess which of these will work for your family.

And the truth is that — if your child’s sleep problems have been going on for a long time — there’s a good chance that no single “trick” is going to get them sleeping through the night.

But I encourage you to give some of these a try and see if it makes a difference. 

If it does, I’d love to hear about it! 

In fact, if you have any questions at all about your child’s sleep, feel free to get in touch with me via email, or telephone because — like I said — I want to do whatever I can to help right now. 

You can book a call with me by clicking this link  https://sleeprestandplay.youcanbook.me/ or you can e-mail me directly at [email protected]

Since we all need to do our part to stop the spread of this virus, I am NOT currently offering “in-person” sleep consultations. 

HOWEVER, I *am* offering consultations via video chat.

My Calendar is looking up (I think because a lot of Dads are at home right now and they are seeing first hand what Moms are dealing with haha), but I do have some availability the next few weeks if this is something you are interested in.

(Just reach out by phone or e-mail and I can let you know how it works.)

For those of you with toddlers, remember that daily routines are VERY comforting and reassuring for that age group. I know that many of us have had our normal daily routines upended (ie. no daycare, pre-school, etc.), but I would encourage you to set up a new daily routine to follow.

This will not only give your toddler an important sense of security, but it will also help keep you calm and focussed too! 

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Navigating Bedtime with Multiple Kiddos https://sleeprestandplay.com/navigating-bedtime-with-multiple-kiddos/ Sat, 21 Sep 2019 14:43:58 +0000 https://sleeprestandplay.com/?p=2189 Bringing a new baby into the house is an exciting, often overwhelming time, especially when you have other kiddos at home.  It can bring up so many hows and what ifs.   How are the older children going to react to their new sibling? Are they going to embrace the role of older brother or sister? […]

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Bringing a new baby into the house is an exciting, often overwhelming time, especially when you have other kiddos at home.  It can bring up so many hows and what ifs.  

How are the older children going to react to their new sibling? Are they going to embrace the role of older brother or sister? Will they turn into jealous little clingers who need constant attention and reassurance? How will their schedule fit in with your newborn’s naps and feeding times? And maybe most concerning for anyone who’s clawed and scraped to get their little one sleeping through the night, how is this going to affect the older child’s bedtime? 

The thought of juggling multiple kids and bedtime can be hugely mind blowing if you’re not prepared for it. Trying to find fifteen minutes to breastfeed your newborn at the same time you’re trying to get your toddler out of the bath can drive you right out of your mind.

I’ve also been in your shoes and am sharing some tips on how to help the process go smoother for all involved:

  1. Have one bedtime for all the kids in the house.
    A lot of parents I work with are surprised when I suggest that their 3 year-olds should be going to bed at 7:00 at night, but even at that age, kids still need between 10-12 hours of sleep a night. That’s not including daytime naps. I’m talking strictly nighttime, so if your toddler needs to be up at 7:00 AM, a 7:00 PM bedtime is not at all unreasonable. 
  2. Team up and switch off if you can
    If you’re among the lucky ones who has a partner who’s home and available to help you get the kids to bed, put together a list of what needs to get done, split the tasks evenly, and then switch off every other night. Getting your kiddos used to either parent doing bedtime has its benefits.  It shows your kiddo that no matter who does bedtime, it’s the same. This also comes in handy when you get a babysitter to go on a date night! This way they also won’t be dependent on one parent always doing bedtime and frees each of you to work late, go the gym, or catch up with friends…yes it’s possible!
  3. Find opportunities to multitask
    So being parents, we have all become proficient at multitasking. Trying to run through two or three completely separate bedtime routines is going to leave you exhausted, so double up wherever you can. Let the kids take a bath together, feed your newborn while you read your toddler a bedtime story, sing songs together while you change baby’s diaper, and so on. Wherever you can overlap, do it!!
  4. Stick to a 20-30 minute Bedtime routine.
    Bedtime routines are absolutely vital to getting your kids sleeping through the night. It’s a great cueing system to the mind and body  that it is time to wind down and rest. This stimulates melatonin production and dials things down internally to prepare for a long, rejuvenating night’s sleep. A bath is a great place to start since it’s so noticeably different from everything else kids do during the day. It’s a strong signal that sleep is just around the corner.
  5. Save a special activity for bedtime
    Typically it will be the older child who’s capable of entertaining themselves for a little while as you’re busy finishing up with your youngest. It’s not always the case, but whichever way it breaks in your house, come up with a non-screen-related activity that will keep your toddler entertained and quiet, and make it exclusive to that fifteen minutes or so that you need one-on-one time to put the baby down. Don’t make it too stimulating or open-ended. A special coloring book is a great option.
  6. Get Your Older Kiddo involved
    Toddlers love structure and predictability, so giving them a helper position when you’re putting your younger child to bed is a great way to keep them occupied and give them a feeling of accomplishment just before they head to bed. Show them where the diapers are stored and have them bring you the goods as you’re getting your baby for bedtime. 
  7. Stick to the rules you set
    Toddlers test boundaries in a constant, systematic fashion. And now that you’re splitting your attention between them and a new baby, you might feel a little indebted to them. That’s totally natural, but changing or bending the rules is likely to upset them more, not less. As I mentioned previously, kids thrive on predictability and structure. If they suddenly get the feeling like the fences are down, they typically feel a little lost and that’s going to lead to more tantrums, not fewer. So keep the routine and the expectations as close as possible to the way they were before their sibling arrived.
  8. Don’t use screens to occupy your Toddler
    I know how quickly and effectively putting your child in front of the TV or handing them your phone can buy you a few minutes of peace and quiet, however it becomes counter productive so close to bedtime.  These screens are omitting blue light which ultimately interferes with melatonin. So those fifteen minutes of peace and quiet could very easily cost you hours of trying to get your overtired child to settle down for the night. 
  9. Accept the fact that it’s not always going to go smoothly.
    These are, after all, young children we’re dealing with, so if things start to go off the rails a bit, don’t look at it as a failure on anyone’s part. They’re going to have regressions, tough nights, and the occasional meltdown.  Stay calm, don’t re-introduce previous sleep props or start to introduce new things to “help” them get to sleep. Calm and consistent is the way to go. 
  10. Embrace the peace and quiet
    Once you’ve got everyone in bed, wait at least five or ten minutes before you check your email or your phone, just let yourself unwind. Then, eat your hot dinner, relax on the couch, watch Netflix, have a conversation with your partner, catch up on work, read a book, what ever you choose.  Fill your own cup and re-charge so that you are ready to tackle tomorrow.
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Getting Sleep Ready for School https://sleeprestandplay.com/getting-sleep-ready-for-school/ Mon, 05 Aug 2019 19:38:41 +0000 https://sleeprestandplay.com/?p=2180 Summertime often means Camp, Beach, Playdates, Vacations, a later bedtime and naps on the go.  Schedules are put on hold to make the most of those long days. Early mornings and early bedtimes have often not been the norm for Summer. As a new school year approaches and Summer comes to an end, children often […]

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Summertime often means Camp, Beach, Playdates, Vacations, a later bedtime and naps on the go.  Schedules are put on hold to make the most of those long days. Early mornings and early bedtimes have often not been the norm for Summer.

As a new school year approaches and Summer comes to an end, children often find it difficult to transition back to a tighter schedule.  There are a number of things children have to adjust to, new teacher, new grade, new friends, new building, being bussed to school. Some children often start to have new fears emerging at bedtime at the beginning of the school year, for example, they may become afraid of the dark. 

Here are a few tips to get your children and you get back on track with their sleep.

1/  Don’t leave it to the last minute to change your child’s sleep schedule.  Gradually start to push bedtime earlier, at least 2/3 weeks before school starts.  Push it earlier by 15 minutes every four days. For example, if bedtime has been 9 pm, the first four nights should be 8.45, then 8.30 and so forth. This allows the body’s circadian rhythm (natural body clock) get in line and ready for a more natural sleep-wake schedule.

2/  Make bedtime between 7 and 8 pm for Pre-schoolers and school-aged children.  Have them go to bed at the same time every night.  This teaches their bodies to sleep and be ready for rest.  They will wake up more refreshed and ready to start their day the next morning and avoids them getting that second wind.

3/  Have a bedtime routine.  Routines are a great cueing system for the mind and body to get the message that it is time for sleep.  Get the children involved, for toddlers, use sticker charts. Keep the steps simple, with no grey areas.  Aim for the routine to be 30 minutes long. Meet all needs of water/snack/bathroom/cuddles before lights out.

4/  Have a Morning Routine.  Often Summertime means zero routine in the morning. Ensure your kiddo has some steps in place once they wake up so that they get used to the structure.  Breakfast, teeth, get dressed.

5Use a timer.  If you don’t want to be the bad guy or the party pooper, let the timer be the signal that it’s time for bed.  You can make it a game to beat the timer, and if they do, reward them with a sticker.

6/  Limit Screen Time.  Summertime often means free reign with screen time.  Push screen time to early on in the day. Turn off screens at least two hours before bed.  This interferes with Melatonin (sleep hormone) levels and often means an unsettled bedtime.

7/  Make sure your child’s bedroom is dark enough.  This helps with the early morning sun, which can often be the cause of early morning wake-ups.  Use Blackout blinds or a blanket to cover the windows.

Here’s to a fantastic year of learning!

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Travel Tips for Summer https://sleeprestandplay.com/travel-tips-for-summer/ Thu, 04 Jul 2019 16:18:41 +0000 https://sleeprestandplay.com/?p=2176 Well, summer is upon us which means long days, traveling, going on vacation, late nights and having lots of FUN!! I have put together some things to keep in mind when traveling to ensure your little ones sleep stays on track as much as possible and for you to continue to enjoy your time away. […]

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Well, summer is upon us which means long days, traveling, going on vacation, late nights and having lots of FUN!!

I have put together some things to keep in mind when traveling to ensure your little ones sleep stays on track as much as possible and for you to continue to enjoy your time away.

1/ If Traveling On A Plane, JUST SURVIVE 

ACCEPT that you are traveling with children! Ignore the glares, keep your head high and do whatever you need to keep your little one happy.  If you need to feed them to sleep do it. For Toddlers, take lots of new toys and snacks to keep them busy, iPads, movies, activity books, whatever works.  

2/ Adjust To The New Time Zone As Soon As You Can

Sunlight is a useful tool in helping both you and your little one adjust to the new time zone, since light is the most powerful time cue our bodies have. Try to plan meals and socializing around the new time zone as well, and get an hour or two of fresh air in the early afternoon. Make sure you do just the opposite when evening rolls around, keeping things dark.

3/ Don’t Over Schedule Your Day!

We often have long days when on vacation, being in the sun, in the pool, going out dinner or the zoo and we tend to pack in our days.  I suggest you spread out activities throughout the day giving your little one a chance to have a break. This is especially true for Toddlers.  Giving them some downtime in between activities will help.

4/ Honor Babies Sleep Needs

Some pre-planning of your day will help you stick to babies nap schedule.  You may have to have a nap or two on the go. That’s fine, just ensure you get baby in the car or stroller at the scheduled nap time so they don’t become overtired. Be mindful that if you do this daily for 3 days baby is likely to get used to the motion sleep.  So try and have some nap cribs too back at the hotel or where you are staying . A well rested baby will be happier and more alert to take things in and enjoy their time awake.  

5/  Make Sure Your Baby Has Plenty of Opportunity to Move

It’s very likely that whilst on vacation you will have baby strapped in a stroller or be in the car for some time.  Make sure you carve out time in the day for your infant to get some mat time, the chance to crawl around and walk and practice their physical skills.  It helps to exert some energy and avoids them practicing at night.

6/  Bring some home comforts

Take your little ones favorite lovey, blanket and bedding to keep things similar to home.  Those comforting objects will be reassuring and help the transition to the new environment.  Take your white noise machine and some black garbage bags and tape to make the room dark.

Most importantly, give your baby/toddler time to adjust to the new environment and trust in their ability be able to do so and create great memories!

Sleep Well 

Seema

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